Emotional stability is one of the most important aspects of being happy and having a good life. Without emotional stability, people generally fall into patterns of stress, jealousy, heartache and depression.
You can make a conscious choice to improve your mental and emotional health and this can help you change up the way you think. This also helps you alter emotionally disruptive habits to enhance your quality of life.
Emotional stability refers to the ability choose thoughts and actions that are able to lead to a sense of serenity, calmness and harmony in your life within yourself and your interactions with others.
These are some of the qualities that make up an emotionally stable individual and are certain sets of behavior that you can incorporate within yourself to have a well-rounded and balanced life, free from negative emotions and instability.
Here are 7 behavioral patterns of emotionally stable individuals to inculcate within yourself
1. They are comfortable with saying “NO”
One of the characteristics that people who are emotionally stable have in common is that they are comfortable with saying “no”. They don’t commit to things that they don’t want to do or make any type of false promises that they won’t be able to fulfill. They are comfortable with saying no to requests that they aren’t able to find time for or don’t want to do.
People who are unstable with the ability to say no often are taken advantage of, people who are confident realize that they only have 24 hours a day and do the things that matter the most to them. Calm and assertive people don’t feel bad about saying no and it takes confidence.
We generally want to please everyone in our lives, however, often we take on way too much on our plates and overextend ourselves, lose our emotional stability and self-esteem. If you are too overwhelmed and can’t find any time for yourself, it is okay to say no. Don’t be worried about being mean or rude and burning off bridges, people will understand. Just explain that you would not be able to fit it into your schedule at the moment.
2. They are confident in embracing their flaws
One of the biggest issues that a lot of unstable people face is they try to put on a façade of perfection. People who are emotionally stable realize that they are imperfect and are not afraid of embracing it.
If people are absolutely perfect, they would stop growing and developing. They don’t want to stop developing and growing. With unlimited knowledge available to the world, they are constantly on a quest to absorb as much knowledge as possible.
Your imperfections are what makes you unique; and emotionally stable people don’t try to hide that fact, they admit their flaws openly and talk about it openly. They are able to accept themselves for who they authentically are, and this is what enables them to achieve emotional stability.
It is crucial to have a positive outlook and try and find the positives in every situation. Treat your mistakes as a learning opportunity and move on, instead of holding on to them and being sad about them.
3. They know how and when to listen
People who are emotionally stable are more comfortable with listening than having to talk at all times. They are generally self-assured in what they need to say and don’t really feel any need to talk at all points in the communication.
They are able to listen to what others have to say, which enables them to have incredible conversational skills. They are also able to take a lot of critical feedback. They really want to know all about your opinion even if they aren’t able to agree with the situation.
4. They are quite selective with their close friends
People who are emotionally stable know that the company that they surround themselves with generally influences the outlook we have towards life in general. Being surrounded by people who are negative can lead to an influx of negative energy in your life.
Stable individuals are very selective with people who they want to associate themselves with to ensure that there are no toxic people in their lives to tear down their defenses or lower the morale of the group.
Negative people love taking people down with them and thus emotionally stable people associate with those that build them up. If you have a toxic energy in your life or someone who is affecting you in a negative way, it is time to burn that bridge.
5. They don’t like to conform to norms to blend in
Emotionally stable people don’t really pretend to be someone they are not or follow trends blindly. They don’t care if they are able to blend in with a crowd and are completely comfortable with their own skin. If this gets them into disagreements with family members, coworkers or friends or even the entire world, if they have something they believe in, they don’t feel the need to blend in.
The more stable you become emotionally, the more independent you get, and the less you feel the need to blend in. If you are feeling pressured into doing something that doesn’t sit well with your ethics or values, you need to ask yourself why you feel the need to fit in. Recognizing the areas where you are emotionally fragile is the first step towards becoming more emotionally stable.
6. They are comfortable asking for help
People who are emotionally stable, don’t really feel threatened while asking for help. Successful people have support systems that help them succeed. They understand that they can’t do it all on their own and don’t waste time while trying.
They are able to trust others and aren’t afraid of asking for help. Asking for help doesn’t make you a failure. Everyone needs help once in a while. If you are struggling with something in your life, don’t be afraid of asking for help.
7. They are capable of supporting others
Emotionally insecure people are generally the ones who like to break others down and make them feel sad. Emotionally stable individuals are able to cheer on others and help their peers to succeed. They don’t feel the need to go behind someone’s back or take credit for someone else’s work.
They actually want others to succeed and are capable of realizing that being associated with successful people; they are able to succeed themselves.
If you are giving into jealousy or wishing the downfall of others, you are succumbing to your emotional insecurity. Instead of focusing on others, focus your energy on yourself and your personal growth.
These are some of the behavioral patterns that are evident in people who are emotionally stable and lead a balanced and well-rounded life.
By inculcating these behaviors within yourselves, you will be able to avert a lot of stress and anxiety inducing situations that may arise in your interpersonal relationships and can help you cope better in your everyday life.
With a simple change in outlook, you will be able to understand the situations that are causing you anxiety and can help you ensure that they are dealt with in a much more efficient manner.
By understanding your areas of insecurity, you can understand how to modify and adapt to them. Good luck.